Often people wonder if sex will become predictable and boring once they have been their partner for some time. However, sex can often get better over time rather than worse, and with some simple changes it's easy to put the novelty back. In fact, if you've been together for some time it is often possible to make things even more exciting and adventurous than it was earlier in the relationship.
The one big advantage an established couple has over a new one is the increased level of trust. This makes it more comfortable to ask for something different and new that might be embarrassing with someone you don't know as well.
To keep things exciting, you'll have to remember to make romantic gestures and suggest new approaches, but it's worth it. You can put excitement into an established relationship far more easily than you can put trust into a new one.
Sooner or later you may both have an established routine of sexual practices which spoils expectation and excitement.
The best advice is to start again. Most things that couples do during sexual activities are those based on discoveries from the first year or so of their relationship. Remember tastes change. Things you once liked can become boring, and you may feel ready now to try things they would have been too shy to suggest in the early days. Start from the beginning, try new touches and techniques, and talk to each other about what you like.
Links
The links below contain more detailed information on relationships.
- Relate: www.relate.org.uk
