The word 'libido' originates from the Latin word for lust. It can described as a persons sexual appetite, and like all appetites, it varies from person to person, and changes from time to time for each individual. Our sexual desire is easily influenced and it is not uncommon for us to experience lows in our sex drive at some point in our lives.
Arousal is usually most noticeable when we are stimulated and the sex drive is engaged. Arousal is probably most noticeable in the male with erection, but is apparent in both sexes in different ways. In women the vagina lubricates, the clitoris swells, the breasts enlarge. In both men and women, heart rate and breathing quickens and there is a feeling of being "turned on". Without this arousal, sexual activity is possible but tends to be less enjoyable.
Libido problems are referred to as 'sexual desire disorders' and the clinical definition for difficulties with arousal is 'sexual arousal disorders'. May factors can influence loss of libido; including menopause, ageing and medication.
These problems can present themselves as an aversion to, and avoidance of, sexual contact with a partner. In men, there may be partial or complete failure to get or keep an erection, and for both mean and women there may be a lack of sexual excitement and pleasure in sexual activity.
There are occasionally medical reasons for these disorders e.g. circulatory problems or chronic (long-term) disease. There may also be relationship issues, which may include. These can include;
- Boredom
- Loss of interest in the sexual partner
- Differing libido or sexual appetite
- Unacceptable sexual practices of one partner
- Poor personal hygiene of one partner
