Changes in your body
In the first week after giving birth you may notice a number of changes in your body, including:
- Your tummy looks and feels soft and round. You won't look pregnant, but your body won't go back to how it was immediately.
- You feel some pain in your uterus. Breastfeeding, in particular, can stimulate 'afterpains' as your uterus contracts.
- Your breasts increase in size. They'll get bigger from day two or three as your milk 'comes in'. They may feel a bit uncomfortable, but this should pass.
- A lot of vaginal discharge for a few weeks. As the uterus sheds the rest of its lining you will experience a red discharge at first. It then changes to a pinkish brown, then cream. Use sanitary towels to protect your clothes (not tampons, as there's a risk of infection).
Sex after Childbirth
When it comes to resuming your sex life after the birth, it all depends on you and your partner. It's normal not to feel much like having sex for the first weeks, at least, and to approach it all gently for a while.
If you just let things happen, stay close to your partner emotionally and remain patient, your sex life will probably resume gradually.
At first, you may need a lubricant for penetrative sex or if you're nervous about stitches or tears. If sex hurts despite the use of a lubricant, you may still not have quite healed. If this continues for some time speak to your doctor for advice.
Baby Blues and Post-Natal Depression
Having a baby will mean some changes including to your social life. You may be enjoying the developing bond with your baby, but miss the company of adults, which can lead to feelings of boredom and loneliness. There is lots of support out there in various forms, either from family, friends, your midwife or local groups. It is important that you speak to people and let them know how you feel.
Exhaustion and hormone surges can leave you feeling tearful and down two to three days after the birth, this is often called the 'baby blues'. You may find you develop postnatal depression (PND) which is longer lasting and stronger in its effects. PND can be described as a range of feelings, from severe symptoms of depression at one end, to spells of feeling low, isolated or very tired at the other.
If you think you have PND, talk to your doctor or midwife. There are a number of different forms of help available including antidepressants, counselling/psychotherapy and social support.
